Living and Organized From the Inside Out

Posted on September 18, 2013 by bridget

“Satisfaction lies in the effort,
not in the attainment —
full effort is full victory.”  – Gandhi

 

Autumn is a wonderful time to get more organized – whether it be cleaning out a closet, getting your paperwork in order, prioritizing for the new school year or getting more organized and disciplined about an exercise program or preparing healthy meals for your family. Autumn is a good time to harness your energy inwards after all the activity and business that accompanies the summer months.

One of the most challenging aspects associated with making changes is that as you proceed with a new habit, over time, you may fall back into habitual patterns and without realizing it you may find you are attempting again to get things done the “old way.” In other words, you “fall asleep” and behave in mechanical ways. When you “wake up” you discover that you have resorted to your feeling-centered patterns. These are the underlying or unconscious thoughts and feelings that drive your every action and decision in life. These are the thoughts and feelings that keep you from making the changes that you desire. This can be a very frustrating loop and it takes a lot of effort to break this pattern and make conscious choices, one choice and one day at a time.  Getting your life organized from the inside out is about living up to your full potential; it is about tapping into your true essence and allowing the beauty of your soul to shine through. It's about living an authentic life. When you notice that you have fallen back into the old way of doing things, take a deep breath, and then simply continue on – taking action, taking the next step. Remember your point of power is in the now. All you have is this moment of reality to take inspired action and bring about positive change.

Joey (not his real name) has been a coaching client for the past 7 months and we began our first coaching session just after Joey went through a really nasty divorce. Joey was feeling overwhelmed and was wondering how he would ever manage to get his life in order. The cost of his divorce was devastating on all levels, not just financially. Joey wanted to live life to its fullest, he wanted to move past the regrets and loss and create deeply meaningful connections. Joey wanted a fulfilling life; he wanted to be living from the inside out.   As Joey sank into the chair in my office, he said “I find that as I achieve one milestone along the way towards my goal, it would be so easy for me to let go of my breath and say – phew, did that – and then fall right back into my old, comfortable and familiar ways.”

We discussed that one thing that may be helpful for Joey is to note when he’s ruminating and then stop and ask himself  “Well, if I'm thinking about it so much, what can I do right now about it?"  Using the rumination as a trigger for action, instead of just a continuous and tiring reverie, allows Joey to honor his feelings and put them to use in a way that is more productive.  The worst case scenario, is that if he can't — or chooses not to — take action directly tied to those ruminating feelings, then he can say something to himself along the lines of "If I can't do something on that goal right now, I don't have to think about it or keep it top of mind right now,"  which seems to have a positive effect of turning down the volume on the rumination, and providing head space to do something else.  

To get you started on organizing from the inside out and create a more meaningful life here are some tips to de-clutter your home, office or any space. If you're one of those people who are surrounded by clutter and just can't seem to get organized, then you may lack the skills of organizing, which can be easily learnt. Organizing should be broken down into a step-by-step process and below are three steps to help you on your way:

 1. Analyze – If you are in the process of organizing your office desk you most probably have lots of paperwork to sort through. It’s important that you look at your existing situation and ask questions: 

What’s working?
What’s not working?
What pieces of paper are most essential to you?
Why do you want to get organized?
What’s causing the problem?

2. Strategize- Decide what you need to help you get organized. Take small steps and create a plan on how to continue taking action on your organizing project. Estimate how much you can accomplish. Be realistic!

Remember that organizing from the inside out isn’t about tidying up and moving things around. It is about getting rid of stuff that is clogging up your life. One idea I like is to photograph sentimental things you can't bear to part with. It is the memory you cherish, not the item.
 
 3. Action- Jump right in and start organizing!
 
PLEASE REMEMBER it’s important not to get stuck in the first two steps of analyzing and strategizing. Often it’s best to jump right in at number three and follow Nike’s prescription “Just Do It!” and an even better idea is “Just Do It Now!”

I have often heard people refer to the book “Organizing From the Inside Out” by Julie Morgenstern, I have had it sitting on my bookshelf for many years now and it was not until today that I decided to browse through it and see if I could find any pearls of wisdom. Visit her blog at juliemorgenstern.com 

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How to Find Your Passion and Creating Meaningful Work

Posted on June 12, 2013 by bridget


As a Life Coach and Reiki Master I notice a common thread among many of my clients and that is the continual search for a fuller, more passionate and meaningful life. The question is “How do I discover my personal passion?”

Your personal passion is what drives you, it’s the reason you get out of bed in the morning, and it’s what gives your life purpose and direction. Not everyone knows precisely what their passion is right away. Many people ask "Isn't there a passion course available?" A good place to start is to become aware, as you go through your day, as to what gives you the most pleasure and joy. Even though you may feel as though you have endless daily responsibilities, you can simply create your own self-reflective test to discover your personal passion.   At the end of the day, reflect upon the activities and interactions that provided the most meaning and that made you feel completely in your element. When you practice this simple self-reflective test often, you will soon become aware what your truest passion is. 

At times you may feel stuck and unable to move forward in your life. Life may feel overwhelming and the path ahead unclear. You may also find yourself coming up with excuses as to why you can’t do what you love, why you can't take the time to discover your passion.  A common response is”yes, but….” You may find yourself falling into this category, just as one of my clients Connor (not his real name) does.

Connor  is about to turn 40 and as he reflects back on his life and the choices he has made, he is left feeling empty, with no burning passion and completely unfulfilled. Even though Connor is living the American dream of enjoying a good marriage, 3 healthy children, a successful business and a nice car, he wonders if there is more to life.  As a little boy, Conner loved playing with airplanes and his dream was to become a pilot. Being a wiz at math and science he followed an academic route and excelled at college and started a very successful financial consulting business. Working with numbers was not his passion but it was something he was very good at. So when I asked Connor what was stopping him from getting his pilot’s license now, he came up with many excuses as to why he could not embrace his personal passion. Connor had become a “yes, but” person.

The next time you find yourself saying “yes, but…” drop the “but” and keep the “yes”! Become a yes person and see what happens.  “Yes” opens you up to a whole new range of possibilities and pulls you towards your truest passion and purpose. When you use words that limit you, you will get stuck and life will loose its vigor and meaning. 

There are various ways to make your self miserable in life. These included unnecessary comparisons, lack of gratitude, self focus, fighting against reality, living with limitation, fatigue, fear of failure and broken or forgotten dreams, among others. One way to assure misery is to not discover your passion, not to work hard and create something larger than your self. . Having a purpose draws you into life. Compare a person that is active with some purposeful work or personal passion, with a person that merely passes time with meaningless activity. Living a satisfying life with meaning and purpose will automatically make you feel good. When you feel good, your life expands. When you feel down, your life restricts and you can fail to see the opportunities right in front of you.

In the process of aligning with your personal passion and creating meaningful work, always come back to your purpose. So whether it’s to go back to college, search for a new job, get your pilot’s license, start your own business or put a course or workshop together, get clear on your purpose, then take the necessary action. Pay attention to what reality is presenting to you, as this is where the gift of opportunity can be found. Life will require that you take risks along the way, take one step at a time and remember that results come from taking the necessary action and saying yes to life! Discovering your passion, your truest passion is one of life's greatest rewards. 

“If we live a life contributing to others in our present circumstances, then our lives will blossom, and our shoulders will straighten. When we become a person needed by others there comes real significance to our living. When our existence is not useful to others we shrink into ourselves.”  -Takehisa Kora

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Love your Money!

Posted on May 16, 2013 by bridget

Money is neither good nor bad, it is energy. The way you choose to use your money determines the positive or negative impact it has on your life and the world around you. Money can be used as a positive force that benefits you and others. If you generate money in a way that benefits others, through raising their level of consciousness, or through serving and making a contribution, by always giving your best, respecting all life forms and by putting attention and awareness into what you do, you are making a contribution to the world and to your self. When you make the conscious choice to use money in ways that serve your highest purpose then you add light to your money. The more money that is made and spent with awareness and integrity, the more it becomes a force for goodness and healing in the world.

Start counting your blessings of financial abundance – no matter how much money you have today. A wise woman once said “Expressing your gratitude is not just a reactive emotion; it is also a causative energy.” When you count your blessings, when you are grateful for the money flowing into your life, you will bring more blessings into your life. The Law of Attraction is one of the most powerful laws in the universe and when you apply it to money it clearly states that what you think about you bring about. So start to thank the universe for the money and financial resources you have in your life today.

The grateful mind is a great mind, and attracts
to it great things."-  Plato

When you practice the art of gratitude it brings you to a place of giving and receiving. The flow of giving and receiving is important with money too. You may want to begin practicing being a superior receiver as well as a generous giver.  Money is more than just paper notes or coins. It is an energy that should be flowing freely to you and through you to help you materialize abundance on every level. Abundance is love and wisdom, your unique gifts and talents, money and material goods, whatever you need to fulfill and express your life purpose.

Gratitude acknowledges the abundance already present in your life, and, is an act of giving back to the universe. Abundance then becomes a natural by product of living in gratitude. A great place to start counting your financial blessings is by being grateful for all the opportunities that are flowing into your life to support you today.Begin to appreciate and notice all the comforts in your life, all the luxuries. Become aware of all those things that money can buy and that you get to enjoy. Notice how these things enrich your life and the lives of your family and friends.

Mary-Jane has been a life coaching client for the past four months. Her focus was on breaking through her blockages regarding money. She is a talented artist but feels uncomfortable charging for her work. Mary-Jane recently inherited some money from her great uncle. This was unexpected and came as a wonderful surprise. Being a kind spirited and generous woman, Mary-Jane wanted to use the money to bless her family and friends. After meditating and asking her Angels for guidance in how to use the money, she decided to rent a vacation home on the beautiful Florida Gulf coast for the summer months and invite her friends and family to come and enjoy the lovely coastal community of Grayton Beach. Mary-Jane extended this open invitation all through the summer and when it was time to pack up and head back home to prepare the kids for the new school year, she felt elated. This was the happiest summer of her life; she had so enjoyed sharing her unforeseen inheritance with others. Mary Jane said, "It is the experiences shared with others that enriches life and creates the best memories. I could have invested the money, set up a studio for my artwork, or bought myself a convertible, but the joy of watching other people having fun in the sun is far more valuable than any material possession.”  She also commented that this was one of the best experiences of her life, and she now feels as if she has broken through her barrier of lack and limitation. The summer months shared with others showed her that what you give out returns many times over. When you live in the space of gratitude, trust and love, nothing is impossible.

Sometimes our lives are so filled with beauty and unexpected blessings. These can come as a smile from a stranger, witnessing a sunset, a sloppy lick from a pet, or a friend taking you out for lunch. Pay attention to the wonder all around you. Life is filled with comforts and luxuries that often go unnoticed such as the house you live in, the food you eat, the car you drive and cell phones, computers etc.

Sometimes life surprises you. Begin to notice all your blessings, an unexpected windfall, such as a bonus, a gift, or just a sunny day. Be grateful for the times you find a solution to your money challenges or for an unexpected salary increase or generous tip from a client.  Thank the universe for having a rewarding career that allows you enough time and the financial resources to play and have fun with your family. When you love what you do, and you do what you love  – you will never work another day in your life!

Being able to handle your money wisely is also a gift. Having the health to work and earn money is a gift as well. Money is a big part of your life and you need to be on top of your finances. When you are in full control of your financial situation, other parts of your life will likely also improve.

Reflect upon all the times that you felt truly abundant. Write them down in a gratitude journal and give thanks. Count your blessings everyday. Notice the money flowing in to your life and give thanks every time you have sufficient money to buy what you need.

What you give out, is returned to you, in great avalanches of abundance. The possibility for creative abundance and way to generate money are endless. Follow your highest joy and become aware of what you are giving out!

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Angel Awakening

Posted on April 16, 2013 by bridget

Most people don't know that there are angels whose only job is to make sure you don't fall asleep and miss your life.

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Now You Can Live Fearlessly With the Help of the Tarot

Posted on March 16, 2013 by bridget

The Tarot cards are a powerful transformational tool that can help you live a life free from fear, worry and anxiety. Over the past 17 years of doing Tarot readings for clients, I have noticed a certain pattern emerging time-after-time. Most people carry around a lot of fear, such as fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, having no money, or getting cancer. Fear can sabotage your goals and dreams unless you take steps to control and counter it.

 The Tarot cards offer you a symbolic map of consciousness that exposes visually the creative ideas and levels of consciousness that are present in all cultures. The journey through the Tarot represents a journey through life, it teaches you that life is constantly changing and you are here to realize and honor your own, unique individual path.

The Tarot cards contain symbols that are keys to help you unlock your creativity and delve deeper into the wonderful mysteries of life. Tarot is a wonderful tool for self-reflection, and understanding the deeper meaning of the circumstances in your life. The Tarot deck psychologically reveals different visual pictures of psychological states and these can provide you with great insight into designing a fulfilling life which is free from fear.

The Tarot will show you how to live your life fearlessly and with great freedom:

  • The Tarot journey teaches you to lean into the cycles of life, trusting that the pendulum will always swing, and each one of us will experience the highs and lows of life. The important lesson is to stay true to yourself, to your passion and do what brings out your creativity, joy and purpose for living. Remain focused on your passion and your contribution to others, instead of your fears.
  • The Tarot teaches that your life is created more around what you feel about yourself. During a Tarot card reading, each feeling is symbolized by a card and each card appearing in your reading is a reflection of what is happening subconsciously. The Universe will always prove you right in your belief about yourself. The more loving and accepting you are towards yourself, the more outward events will reflect that. The more judgmental you are towards yourself, or the more fearful you are about taking risks or opening your heart to others, the more situations will match this.
  • The Tarot shows you how to trust the process of life and live fearlessly by always remaining true to yourself no matter what.  Fear will dissipate when you switch from trying to be positive about something you actually fear, such flying or public speaking, and instead just remain true to yourself through the process. The Tarot teaches you to follow your personal spiritual path and learn to trust and follow the promptings of your own inner being. When you live fearlessly, you begin to tap into your infinite self.
  • Living boldly requires that you choose to conduct your life by connecting with your own internal passion, bringing out a calm, tranquil quality to your life, which further inspires you to live a life of meaning and of unity.
  • When you release fear, a wonderful new state arises, the state of total allowing. This is the state where most significant change can occur. Drop your fears, and let yourself be you, no matter who you are, and embrace anything that makes you feel alive.

Living fearlessly with the help of the Tarot, will teach you how to give up on pursuing things that you feel you just have to get, or achieve, and instead open up and allow the cycles of life to happen, to embrace the dance of life, and to realize that the act of going after something often stems from fear.  The fear of not having what you truly want.

The art of self-reflection is a wonderful tool to help you realize what is truly important and valuable to you. Don’t focus on what’s lacking in your life because this will keep you stuck in fear and limitation. Let life move you towards what you want to experience. Expand your awareness by trusting and allowing new experiences instead of paying attention to your fears and what leaves you feeling unsatisfied and discontented.

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Help for Neglected Relationships

Posted on February 9, 2013 by bridget

 

It is not often that I recommend a course or an on-line program but this one is an exception. I have participated in the Renewing your Relationship online course run by the ToDo Institute and it is a wonderful program to help gain a richer and deeper perspective on your relationship. It offers you a chance to step back from the business of your everyday life and consider your dreams and your vows.

 This month, the ToDo Institute is offering a unique opportunity to take on the challenge of love.  Their annual Renewing your Relationship program will run from Feb. 18 to March 19, 2013.  I think you might find it a valuable resource.  And through my affiliation with ToDo, you would be eligible for a $15 discount on this program.(If you decide to participate, just enter the code “BS-R13” in the coupon box during checkout, to secure the discount). 

 Here’s what ToDo has to say about the Renewing your Relationship program:

“Most of us want smooth sailing in our relationships. We want support and comfort, respect and good cheer.  In fact, we kind of expect it.  When we trip on rocks that suddenly appear and trudge up hills when we're already tired we can easily conclude that something has gone amiss.  Love's gone wrong.  Or, more to the point, our partner needs to get with the program and shape up. 

But focusing on what our partners need to do is misguided.  That approach won’t ever get us where we want to go.  Our greatest promise for a wonderful relationship is to become the best partner WE can be – it’s that simple and that challenging.

The Renewing your Relationship program offers a rich, engaging and unique opportunity to cultivate love in your relationship, despite the ups and downs of mood and circumstance. Every day you will receive a different exercise that will help you to strengthen a skill, or a practice that will support your relationship.

 And you will have the company of many other people from around the country, and beyond, who are traveling on the same path, and communicating with each other through an online discussion. You will also receive support materials, including a CD and diverse readings (both hard-copy and on-line), to enrich and broaden your experience.

 The cost of this month-long program is about the price of one counseling session. And if you use the above-mentioned code, your cost would be reduced from $93 to just $78.  You can register online or by phone at 802-453-4440 or 800-950-6034.

 We hope you decide to be part of this empowering program on love!

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Every Moment A Fresh One – How to Stop Procrastinating

Posted on January 20, 2013 by bridget


Essentially self-discipline is the ability to get yourself to take action regardless of your emotional state. Self-disciple is a habit to be applied to your life day-by-day. Self-discipline requires you to connect today’s efforts with tomorrow’s results. The quality of your life depends on the choices you make. Sometimes it is necessary to make sacrifices today to meet success later on. A truly successful life requires hard work, perseverance, acceptance and will-power. The efforts you put into living today to the fullest will determine where your future lies. Every action you take today will have a ripple effect. Steve Pavlina says “Just as it takes muscle to build muscle; it takes self-discipline to build self-discipline. He goes on to say “Self-discipline is like a muscle. The more you train it, the stronger you become. The less you train it, the weaker you become.”

At the beginning of a new year it is inspiring and fun to set goals and imagine what your life will look like if your wishes come true. Along with goal setting, it is also important to decide what action to take to carry out your goals, and to do it! Intentions are powerful but you must also be clear on what you need to do differently to turn your goals into reality. Learn to complete a task and focus on doing one thing at a time. At the same time be kind to yourself, and give up on the need to do things perfectly. When you fall back into old ways of doing things, find an easy re-entry spot. Maybe your goal was to keep your desk more organized and you've successfully stuck to your new year’s resolution for the first four days of January. Now you notice the piles of paperwork piling up and a messy corner of your desk filled with sticky-notes, mail, pens and paper clips. Take small steps, such as spending 3 minutes before your lunch break throwing away one unneeded piece of paper. Over time, you will develop a new habit that will stick, you will strengthen your self-discipline muscle.  Self-disciple and not breaking your promise to yourself are key ingredients for turning your wishes into reality.

Jenny, an author and mother of a daughter with Down’s Syndrome has come for Morita Coaching for three months and is learning valuable skills to move towards turning her heartfelt dreams into reality. Jenny, like many of us, felt disappointed in her ability to keep her promise and commitment to herself. At the beginning of each year, Jenny set 5 goals to carry out. By the end of November each year, Jenny had not made much progress. She began to realize that her lack of commitment to herself and lack of activity led her down the path of failure. Jenny noticed that not keeping her word to herself was the root of her feelings of inadequacy and incompetence. Not keeping her promise to herself didn’t match her highest values of respect, integrity and honesty. When Jenny broke a promise with her friends, she felt upset. Now it was time for Jenny to honor her commitment to herself the same way she honored her commitment to others. Jenny noticed that when self-discipline was lacking in her daily routine, it similarly created a negative flow effect and her life became chaotic in more areas than one. She began to notice that she ate poorly, didn’t get adequate sleep, didn’t exercise or pay her bills on time. With coaching, Jenny began to find great worth in letting her values pull her forward. Achieving the right mix of honoring herself and her values, together with self-discipline helped Jenny meet her goals and live out her greatest potential.

You may notice that you are constantly breaking promises to yourself, just as Jenny did, and not keeping up with the goals you set for yourself. It is important to distinguish the difference between the emotions you feel when you don’t honor your commitment to get up at 5am and go for a run, or keep your desk clutter-free, or eat a salad for lunch. Become aware of the feelings of disappointment you feel when you disregard your promise to yourself and don’t honor your highest values.

A wonderful quote by David Reynolds, the author of Constructive Living is “Every moment a fresh one.” This is such a potent reminder that wherever life finds you at any given moment, you have the power to choose to act in ways that support your goals. No need to plan; no need to analyze; just do it! When you slack off for a few days, you can always begin anew. As you practice self-discipline and awareness, you will begin to live your life more in-tune with your values and ideals.

When life challenges you, remember be firm, but gentle with yourself and remember there is power in just doing it and sticking to your plans. Take one step at a time, and gradually pick up the pace. Over time you will develop more skills in self-discipline; you will develop more of your self-discipline muscle, as well as be able to enjoy some of the results of your efforts while enjoying a productive and satisfying 2013.

“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is power” – Lao Tzu 

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How Neuro Linguistic Programming Puts You on the Path to Happiness

Posted on November 5, 2012 by bridget

NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming and it provides an insight into your subconscious mind to set up new, productive patterns of behavior. If you are keen on gaining control over your life, achieving more in your career, improving your relationships and finding more happiness in your life then NLP is a valuable resource.  Many of the clients I have worked with notice an increase in their happiness level and a feeling that life is working out in their favor after receiving a NLP session.

Most people face significant challenges at some time in their life. Maybe it is a financial, health, relationship or a natural disaster that brings a time of chaos and uncertainty. Some people find life a constant struggle. Maybe you have periods in your life when you feel happy, healthy and confident, interchanged with periods of major downward spirals. Or maybe you are doing well on the outside, you have a good job, a nice family and you are healthy but on the inside you feel anxious, stressed or overwhelmed.

Neuro-linguistic programming helps you become aware of the areas in your life where you are limited and restricted; a NLP session can help you break through negative patterns that are a result of your life not working the way you want it to. NLP coaching can uncover unconscious choices made earlier on in life and effectively clear them so that you can move forward and actualize your goals and dreams and live a happier life.

When I ask my clients what is most important to them, the answer is usually to feel happier, to have closer bonds with friends and family. You are not meant to be solitary; you, like most people, probably function better and feel much happier when you are part of a community. When using NLP for happiness, rapport is one of the most important factors in establishing fulfilling relationships with the people around you.

Feelings of belonging and being valued help you feel relaxed, safe and able to communicate your true feelings and desires. Conversation, both verbal and non-verbal, form the bonds that you make with others. The interactions and gestures you exchange  give you a feeling of connection and belonging. Ultimately, you want to feel appreciated, as if you are contributing to society and making this world a better place. Your connection with others significantly helps you in finding your niche in the world.

Building healthy and strong connections  invites companionship and support. Diversity of the people in your circle can help you expand your own views on life and see life from a whole new perspective. Happy people have learnt the value of camaraderie and friendship. Happy people know that the bonds they form with others helps mold them into the person they want to be.

NLP is beyond being academic. For NLP to be most effective, the techniques need to be applied to your daily life.  NLP concentrates on developing the personality, expanding awareness and providing you with knowledge beyond your years.  Simply put, NLP aims to develop and nourish the well-being of an individual by increasing your ability to comprehend sensory raw data and your linguistic skills in lieu of verbal and non-verbal communication through programs that are designed to address immediate issues with regard to establishing rapport with the self and others.

NLP helps you gain instant rapport with others. With this, NLP also establishes a certain degree of confidence within you so that you can easily express yourself and your opinions about any issue. NLP sessions help you to be more expressive, so that you can make good choices, verbalize them and begin living your life through conscious creation.  On a deeper level, NLP helps develop the previously suppressed parts of yourself that can now put you on the road to happiness and success. 

Life unfolds from the inside out. Ken Keyes wrote “Your predictions and expectations are….self-fulfilling. Since your consciousness (thoughts) create your universe, all you have to do to change your world is to change your consciousness!”

You may believe you have developed a pattern of thinking and behavior that can not be broken. Your father did it. Your Grandfather did it. Now you have become the legacy bearer. Maybe your parents told you “Don’t make the same mistakes I made”.

NLP can help you break away from old and restricting patterns. NLP can help you tap into your unlimited potential and use your force and power to live a happy life.

From the first moment a client engages in NLP, they are amazed and at the same time motivated to further develop their NLP knowledge because of the primordial support it allows them. I have discovered that NLP often encourage my clients to learn and discover more about themselves leading them towards a much happier and meaningful life.

Happiness is a choice. Start making conscious positive choices today.

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Why Life Coaching is so Effective for Teens

Posted on October 8, 2012 by admin

Life Coaching for Teens focuses on enhancing the life of the teen and teaching skills to balance and integrate the many aspects of life. The sessions include defining what is truly important and valuable, setting a precise set of goals and defining an action plan to carry them out. Life Coaching sessions are action-oriented, solution-oriented and the spotlight is on moving forward and turning goals into reality with as little stress as possible.

Many teens who come for Life Coaching are very smart and competent. They are usually driven and have high expectations for themselves and the life they wish to create. They want to make a difference in the world and don’t want to waste time, get stuck or lost along the way. These teens realize and value the importance of having someone help them think outside the box.

Meeting regularly with a certified Life Coach can help a teen:

  1. Reach their Goals: Helps teens set more realistic goals that inspire them. A coach will help identify what they want and set achievable goals that they really want and value. Value-based goals are naturally motivating.
  2. Gain Clarity: When a teen is clear on what they want, they tend to make the right choices and make fewer mistakes.
  3. Stay Focused: A coach will help a teen see where they are in their life and where they want to go. Staying focused on their goals and not someone else’s will help a teen stay motivated and inspired as they work towards obtaining their goals. They will grow from the process as they uncover their own value and special gifts and talents.
  4. Reduce Stress: Because life coaching is action-oriented it focuses on the doing. You will notice your teen will be able to accomplish goals more quickly and learn to be more productive and efficient with their time.
  5. Success: A coach will help a teen improve the quality of their daily life. They will be shown ways to accelerate their goals while being more effective, peaceful and happy. Success builds upon success and life coaching will teach them at a young age some important tools and skills to help them master the art of living well.

Life as we know it is changing. Young people are no longer satisfied with a life that focuses on “me” and “mine”. They are striving for something larger than themselves. The trend of young people seeking to create a more meaningful life for themselves has accelerated over the past few years.  People in their 20’s are re-evaluating what the good life actually is. Many do not have the same goals as the previous generations of marriage, 2.5 kids, a home in the suburbs, a secure job, a retirement fund, 2 nice cars and a few vacations each year. This generation is creating their own game of life and making up their own rules.

Many Life Coaches have embraced these changes themselves, have learnt the art of conscious choice making and live a deep and meaningful life.  They have created their own lives, not a life according to cultural standards and are deeply rooted in the truth of who they are and what they are here to do. Let us help your teen move towards the realization of living a life with passion, energy and dreams. It is time to think creatively; to take risks and to point the way for them to follow their God-given dreams. It is time to change the world.

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Life Coaching for Teens – Helping Your Teen Achieve Their Potential

Posted on September 7, 2012 by admin

A teenager is the joy the world is waiting for

 

Life Coaching can help motivate teenagers to achieve their fullest potential. A coaching session provides a space for your teenager to learn more about herself, about her choices and her heart felt dreams and goals. Life Coaching is not just about helping your teen stay organized or about developing healthier and more productive study habits. Coaching takes it a step further, and helps a young person gain clarity and develop an inner awareness to make decisions that are in alignment with what is most important to them.

Life Coaching for teens is about young people taking control of their choices and their future. It is about learning to be creative and find creative solutions to the problems of life and building self-esteem in problem solving and choice making.

Life has become so busy, that many teenagers are living life on auto-pilot. The choices they make are often made unconsciously and by default instead of with careful analysis

 It is important that teachers and parents don’t unduly influence them or encourage them to take an inauthentic path that isn’t really from their heart. It is necessary to give your teen the space and support they need to confidently create the life they want to live, as ultimately they are the only ones who are in control of the person they become.  

Teaching a teen to make conscious choices is a very valuable skill that can help them build a successful and happy life. Choice is the ability to recognize alternative and possible consequences, thereby enabling the selection of that which is most desirable, admirable, and honorable.

Teenage years are about claiming the unique gifts, strengths and passions that are their own. They are about turning away from false views imposed upon them and finding their own life path and purpose. During these years it’s important for them to learn who they truly are and not let their identities be lost, buried or devalued and instead become confident enough to stand in their own light and take action on what matters most to them.  An abundance of choices await each teen and together with a tight schedule of school work, sports activities, friendships, family commitments and maybe even a part-time job, life as a teen can seem overwhelming. Choosing the right college, the right friendships and relationships can be challenging and leave a teen feeling unsure and even afraid.

Life Coaching can provide a sweet spot, away from all the activities of teenage life, to help them discover and uncover their own delightful, authentic selves and proudly present that to the world. It is about discovering where their power is and their joy is.

 

Some of the challenges that can be helped with Life Coaching for Teens are:

·         Anxiety over grades

·         Frustration in relationships

·         Personal leadership

·         Pursuing their passion and purpose

·         Motivation and goal setting

·         Concern about college

·         Weight issues

 

Working with a Life Coach can help a teenager break free from the voices that tell them, they are not smart enough, or strong enough to do what they want to do. Maybe it’s the fear of telling a parent that they need to live their own life, or maybe it’s the fear of failing. Many teenagers can be consumed with the fear of making the wrong choice about a relationship, or a college. The teenage years are filled with constant change and each teen must develop the ability to continually let go of the old and make room for the new, and safely learn from their inevitable mistakes.

Teens can be afraid of the consequences of their choices, it is important to evaluate each choice. Clearly focused choices, rooted in self-awareness and trust will lead them in the right direction. Focused and courageous choices make them aware of their own power and innate ability to succeed in spite of obstacles and barriers. Being able to make their own choices in life develops confidence and provides natural feedback to change their decisions when necessary. Over time the mastery to make better and better choices is the result.

Meeting with a Life Coach can provide a breathing space, giving a teen tools to make them even more successful and confident.

 

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